Comments on: Dealing with Friends Who Don’t Support Homeschooling

By: Jenn

Jenn — Thu, 15 Sep 2011 18:06:51 +0000

We have a teacher friend who would question my kids at any occasion while all the kids were playing together, 2 hs, 2 public school, 1 Catholic school. My eldest never seemed phased by it, but my youngest did NOT like the questioning. One time she perked up looked my friend full in the face and with the most innocent faced asked, “Why are you asking me all these questions?”
To which my friend gracefully responded, “You are right, I guess it is not right of me,or something to that effect. My youngest is very good at answering a question with a question, and I don’t think she would have stopped until she got anything other than a, “OK, I’ll leave you alone.”

In regards to the pastor’s or other peoples’ criticism. If these were people that I could not just avoid, I would jokingly cry out the next time they critise me, and beg them not to crucify me in public, or say, “Oh no are you going to read me the riot act AGAIN”. They may not even realise how much they do it, or come across as you needing their approval. If my husband did not get flat out mad at such a comment he would probably say, “Sorry Master, did not know the master would be dis mad a me.” Maybe you could ask them why they feel justified in criticizing your choices, but they may just like to give you a long explanation.

By: Susan (HomeGrownKids)

Susan (HomeGrownKids) — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 22:20:38 +0000

Thanks Lee! I am already subbed via RSS and email to all your articles so I’ll look forward to reading it.
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By: Lee

Lee — Wed, 27 Oct 2010 21:22:19 +0000

Hi Susan,
GREAT question – and I love your blog! Wait till you see my November newsletter on Delight-Directed learning! You’re going to love it!

A couple of years ago, a client asked me a very similar question, and I did a blog post about it. Maybe it will help you as well:

Salt and Light
http://www.thehomescholar.com/blog/salt-and-light/624/

Blessings,
Lee

By: Susan (HomeGrownKids)

Susan (HomeGrownKids) — Wed, 27 Oct 2010 21:15:18 +0000

I have a rather unusual problem, I believe. My (fully homeschooled) 19yodd works at the church and they don’t like homeschooling. They (pastor and his wife) absolutely love her and her work ethic and her abilities but they constantly let her know that they don’t approve of homeschooling nor of the parenting decisions we made.

They have had a few discussions about it and my daughter explained that we just wanted what we thought was the best for our children, like most parents. Doesn’t matter how non judgmental she comes across, they still let her (and us when we’re around) know that they don’t approve of our decision.

These people have remarked on many occasions that they respect our dd and value her abilities. Yet they seem to disrespect her by continuing to make us aware of their disapproval.

I used to think that people might see that the ‘proof is in the pudding’. In this instance, whilst they fully benefit from the pudding and like it, they still see fit to criticise the cook and the cook’s methods.

Any tips or ideas for handling this?
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By: Nancy Welliver

Nancy Welliver — Sun, 11 Jul 2010 05:08:42 +0000

We have been homeschooling for 20 years and have heard it all from my husband’s mom and others. The worst was our next door neighbor who would come by repeatedly just to ask when I was going to put my kids in a “real” school. Not only did she believe that homeschooling should be illegal, she also thought having a business out of a home should be as well. So we were the worst possible people in her eyes as we not only homeschooled but also run a business selling used curriculum to homeschoolers our of our house!! Horrors! One day after getting the usual question from her I replied, “I respect the choice you made in the education of your children, please respect mine.” After this I heard no more from her regarding our homeschooling until many years later. I was shocked one day to have her on my front porch asking me to help her granddaughter homeschool herself through her last year of high school. Lots of replies went through my mind, but the one I gave was that I would be more that happy to help. The granddaughter was a year behind but wanted to graduate with her friends on time. She completed her junior and senior work in less than a year. She started in Oct and finished in early May. She graduated a month before her friends and was signed up for summer college classes, on scholarship, before her friends graduated from high school. No more problems with the neighbor. She likes us now.

By: Rebecca Hardin

Rebecca Hardin — Fri, 14 May 2010 03:45:08 +0000

It is important to put our “best feet forward” for the sake of the whole hs community. When we leave the house, I ask them if we look like hs-ers.
Of course my kids know I’m just refering to the stereotype of bed-head and high-waters, (which does happen in ps, too, but doesn’t get blamed on that method) but appearance can really reinforce a person’s opinion…

By: Lee

Lee — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 20:11:06 +0000

Karen,
My husband’s parents have been very supportive ever since school shootings started happening. The rest of his family just tolerates our strange behavior, and chooses not to talk about homeschooling anymore than they would talk about politics, LOL!!
Blessings,
Lee

By: karen

karen — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 19:26:39 +0000

Lee,
What is your husband’s family saying now? LOL

By: bj

bj — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 03:51:26 +0000

I too have a family full of teachers. I usually tell them that homeschooled kids are about 2 “public” school grades ahead of their “Piers”. and then proceed to let them know my 14 year os taking chemistry. Fam – no comment

By: Lois

Lois — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 20:16:42 +0000

One of my friends had someone ask her, “Would you let your kids go to public school if they wanted to?” She replied sagely, “I’m not sure. Would you let your kids be homeschooled if they wanted to be?” That seemed to shut them up. No matter what, always smile and share all the exciting things you’re doing in your homeschool. Even when your children shrug and say, “I dunno,” you can inform the nosy busybodies that that is usually the answer when you ask the same of public school kids.