Comments on: Do Not Conform http://www.thehomescholar.com/blog/do-not-conform/640/ Helping Parents Homeschool High School Mon, 06 Feb 2012 17:14:25 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Catherine http://www.thehomescholar.com/blog/do-not-conform/640/comment-page-1/#comment-740 Catherine Tue, 18 Nov 2008 15:51:57 +0000 http://www.thehomescholar.com/blog/?p=640#comment-740 Great post! My oldest is 13, and she has never been to school. But, I still fall into the comparison trap. It is particularly hard sometimes with my son who is dyslexic not to feel like we're not doing "enough". Then God reminds me (again) that He is God and I am not and that my kids are on loan from Him. Thanks for the good words. Catherine Great post! My oldest is 13, and she has never been to school. But, I still fall into the comparison trap. It is particularly hard sometimes with my son who is dyslexic not to feel like we’re not doing “enough”. Then God reminds me (again) that He is God and I am not and that my kids are on loan from Him. Thanks for the good words.

Catherine

]]> By: J W http://www.thehomescholar.com/blog/do-not-conform/640/comment-page-1/#comment-628 J W Sun, 19 Oct 2008 17:49:00 +0000 http://www.thehomescholar.com/blog/?p=640#comment-628 Amen, amen, and amen. One of my children is "gifted," and the other is is "struggling." However, each child is more than her label. They both have their own strengths and weaknesses. I know I have my black days when I fall into the comparison trap. My tendency on those black days is to value "the gifted" over "the struggling." That's exactly what I shouldn't be doing because that's not how God sees these children. Now, let's look at the labels themselves. "Gifted" by whose standards? "Struggling" by whose standards? Hmmmm... Could it be that I'm actually comparing them against (gasp) what public school kids their age are working on? Angels and ministers of grace defend me!!! That's not to say I should just slack off with my "struggling" learner. Obviously there's work that needs to be done. But really, what it boils down to is I'm building her strengths and shoring up her weaknesses. Gee, that's exactly what I'm doing with her "gifted" sister. So when I look at it from that perspective, I can climb out of the comparison trap. I still have my black days, though. I am, after all, only human. That's where God's love, grace, and mercy come in. Amen, amen, and amen.

One of my children is “gifted,” and the other is is “struggling.” However, each child is more than her label. They both have their own strengths and weaknesses. I know I have my black days when I fall into the comparison trap. My tendency on those black days is to value “the gifted” over “the struggling.” That’s exactly what I shouldn’t be doing because that’s not how God sees these children.

Now, let’s look at the labels themselves. “Gifted” by whose standards? “Struggling” by whose standards? Hmmmm… Could it be that I’m actually comparing them against (gasp) what public school kids their age are working on? Angels and ministers of grace defend me!!!

That’s not to say I should just slack off with my “struggling” learner. Obviously there’s work that needs to be done. But really, what it boils down to is I’m building her strengths and shoring up her weaknesses. Gee, that’s exactly what I’m doing with her “gifted” sister. So when I look at it from that perspective, I can climb out of the comparison trap.

I still have my black days, though. I am, after all, only human. That’s where God’s love, grace, and mercy come in.

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