As parents homeschooling high school, our goal is NOT to teach something. Our goal is for our kids to LEARN. I could have taught my kids “at grade level” and they would have not learned a thing. Instead, I gave them curriculum at their ability level, and then they had to learn something that they didn’t already know.
I have been telling people for 3 + years that I don’t teach my kids, I just give them the materials they need to learn and find a method of accountability (testing!). They teach themselves. I tried to tell the schools they attended that no one was teaching anything because the kids were not learning at their level. Your article stated exactly what I had been trying to say! LOL My daughter is now 13 and taking AP tests in Physics and Calculus this spring, having been adopted from Russia 7 years ago. I haven’t taught her math since she learned English. Her brother, at 12 is less motivated, but has found that he can learn math using a different program, and having just starting high school geometry 2 weeks ago is 50% done! We basically do the same in all subjects: learn the material, discuss what they feel is interesting and correct assignments and tests together. This has eliminated a lot of stress in our family.
Thanks,
Nancy in Connecticut
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Carrie says:
I agree providing the curriculum that matches your child’s abilities and needs, not just teach what some school board says is “grade level”, but it bothers me that the only stories parents share seem to be when their child is a genius and teaches themselves geometry and does 50% of the year’s course in two weeks! Or is passing college level AP classes in middle school. Is there anyone out there with a child like mine? That needs actual one on one teaching to understand math; who isn’t a self-motivated student. I mean if I left it all up to him he would read star war books all day. Yes he can read “above grade level”, but left to school himself I dont believe his writing, science, algebra, would all just take care of itself. Again, am I alone out here, the only one who has a child that won’t breeze thru AP classes, ace the SAT, and teach himself?
March 19th, 2010 at 9:13 am
Lois says:
Carrie,
Here I am! My kids are smart, but not fast. They are both behind where they “should” be. My 12 year old son is completely unmotivated, and must be spoon-fed math. There is no incentive big enough to have him initiate what he knows he needs to do. Now that baseball season has started, he must finish ALL his work with a GOOD ATTITUDE or he won’t go to practice or the game. My daughter takes at least an hour to complete an algebra assignment, and I only assign half the problems. She’s in 9th grade, and other homeschoolers we know do algebra in 8th. I don’t get how they completed all that came before.
Let me just share one thing I’ve learned to encourage you. Never compare yourself to another. That goes for your kids too. What I want for mine is to demonstrate a heart that loves the Lord, and for them to serve Him all their days. That is the goal of education. That’s my sermon for the day. God bless you!
March 22nd, 2010 at 8:44 am
Lee says:
Amen, Lois! Our family motto is “Never compare, someone always gets hurt.” Great sermon, Lois
Blessings,
Lee
March 22nd, 2010 at 8:47 am
Carrie says:
Thank you both. I appreciate the honesty and the encouragement! I feel better. God bless you, Carrie
March 23rd, 2010 at 1:05 pm
Lea says:
I really needed to read that. Thank you Carrie, Lois and Lee.
October 7th, 2011 at 10:00 am
Mikki says:
I’m in the same boat; thanks so much for the encouragement!
October 26th, 2011 at 1:24 pm
Moorea says:
Oh, Take heart Carrie- you are not alone. I have been homeschooling for 17 years, 2 graduated, and an 11th grader, 1st & Kinder left. I only had one that was self motivated, he was just that way. So far, I have had to “pull teeth” with the rest. But I know that God desires that I do this, and it is training me to endure. In God’s economy nothing is wasted, preparing us for the next thing He has for us. Don’t be discouraged, it really is for such a short time. I have found that structure works best for the unmotivated. If they cannot rule their time and get the work done, they will be ruled and their time will be structured (somewhat.) Sticking to a schedule might help him understand how to use time wisely and free time is a big motivator!
Blessings, Moorea
December 8th, 2011 at 9:42 pm